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The Inevitability of Change The only constant in this ever-changing world is change itself. So why is there so much stress involved in change? Our complex world means all of us are impacted by shifts in our industry, economic conditions, politics, social norms and personal circumstances. The increased use and speed of communication tools including mobile phones, internet, computer software/hardware, social networking websites and web-based applications have created an expectation of immediacy. This can be incredibly stressful for us in managing our time and responsibilities in a world of "quicker, faster, now" mentality. There are typically two styles adopted by individuals in dealing with change. The first person embraces change proactively and thrives on tackling these issues head on. They like challenging themselves outside their current comfort zones and overcoming obstacles and barriers. The second person resists change at every opportunity. They dig in and resent the changes faced. These individuals yearn for "the good old days" and hold on tightly to the picture of how things have always been. So… which style are you? An adopter of change or a resister? How Does Change Impact on You? We all know that stress is always associated with change. In fact, being stressed out even makes it harder to deal with change. This can often have a profoundly negative impact on our personal and business life and impacts on our emotional/mental and physical states. When faced with a stressful period of dealing with change, do you: Take comfort or escape through caffeine, alcohol, drugs, food, shopping or other fixers? Self sabotage opportunities or relationships through frustration and negative behaviours? Engage in dangerous or high risk behaviours? Over/under sleep? Experience anger outbursts or loss of control? Belittle, patronise or dominate others around you? Argue, deny or avoid facts? Become distant, removed and bored with your circumstances? Live in the past through "rose coloured glasses"? These behaviours and coping mechanisms provide temporary relief at best and certainly do nothing positive for you or those around you. These destructive behaviours are ineffective and don’t lead to you developing your personal skills in managing change. So what is the first step in coping with change? The Person in the Mirror Has All the Answers I was told this a few years ago by a friend, and when I reflected on it, it was quite profound. The guy staring back at me in the mirror does hold the key to unlock all the answers. Acknowledge that change is inevitable and is always present. Now let that awareness guide you towards a positive attitude. This involves a shift to a positive open mindset from a negative fear-based mindset. Work on your self awareness. Now you’ve worked on your self awareness, you can now tackle your response to change. Being able to monitor and modify your response to change is critical here as we can only control our response to the degree that we can see ourselves clearly enough to understand our motivations and actions. It reminds me of the story of the French Chef who would totally lose his cool every night at work resulting in him screaming, swearing and intimidating his kitchen staff. When a colleague dared ask him why he behaved in such a way he retorted "What do you expect. I can’t help it – I’m French." Of course he couldn’t see that he was responsible for his behaviour and his coping mechanism was to blame it on his country of origin. Some Strategies for You to Adopt In Managing Change Use your Change Radar Use your instincts to identify cues and signs that change is in the air. These signs may be obvious in some cases. More subtle cues may be unexplained emotional or physical symptoms. In any case, use your instincts to identify that change may be imminent and make a commitment to roll with it rather than resist. Think Big Picture In the midst of significant change it sometimes may feel that your world is spinning out of control. It rarely is. So try and take your mind off-line and remind yourself of the bigger picture, end game or better outcome ahead. Keep your eye on the grand prize and don’t sweat the small stuff. Be Kind to Yourself Acknowledge that change is stressful. Negative change – Losing your job or the death of a loved one – can be overwhelmingly stressful. Positive change can be too. I remember starting my first business, having our first child and buying our house – while all these events were positive changes for me – they weren’t without stress. So accept and acknowledge this stress is present and be kind to yourself – eat well, sleep enough, exercise, allocate some leisure time and surround yourself with positive people. Speak About It Often during a period of change, individuals (particularly us men!) are reluctant to discuss the stress they’re under as it may appear to portray them as weak and inadequate. Seek out individuals that are confidantes or mentors from your inner sanctum. Letting it out is very healthy for our body and mind and stops the process of internalising this pain. Just Live Today If we can practice living in the moment each day and get better at this incrementally, we enhance our ability to adapt and respond to whatever is happening right now. So focus on what is happening today internally (that you control) and externally (that you respond to). Embrace Don’t Chase When we resist change and chase it away, all our collective energy goes into our defence mode of doing things the same old way within our comfort zone. Embrace the lessons that change can deliver through greater self awareness, challenging long held beliefs and not holding onto outdated practices. I wish you success in managing change in your life! Darren Bourke, Business Influence, 2008. You are welcome to reprint this article online as long as it remains complete (including the about the author information at the end). About the Author: Darren Bourke is a Consultant, Business Coach & Mentor who helps small & medium businesses struggling to maximise profitability, productivity, people and performance. His Free Report titled What Successful Owners of Growth Businesses Do That You Don"’t, newsletter and updates are full of strategies and tips to make your business boom. Sign up now at Article Published On: – Strategic-Planning 相关的主题文章: